Xkcd creepy dating
In the next frame, Randall takes the obligatory shot at negging. He's a good friend of mine, and we lived together for about a year. The point of a neg isn't to undermine a girl's confidence (do you REALLY think that's possible with an extremely hot girl in a club? The point is to signal that you aren't intimidated by her and will treat her like a normal person. I made fun of her for accidentally spilling water on herself.
There ARE certainly valid criticisms of pickup, but Randall took a cheap and inaccurate shot at it.
In the first frame of the comic, the stick figure on the right says, "Pickup artists are dehumanizing creeps who see relationships as adverserial (sic) and women as sex toys." Are there pickup artists out there with these attitudes? Are there non-pickup artists out there with these attitudes? Back in the day I taught workshops around the US with Mystery, and met hundreds or thousands of students. Most were genuinely nice guys who wanted to overcome shyness or learn some social skills.
But despite the short-lived trend of hooking up with guys with real jobs, you were always expected to follow the Standard Creepiness Rule: Never date a person younger than half your age plus seven.
That means guys who were 36 shouldn’t have been dating 21-year-olds. Computer scientist Randal Olson recently crunched the numbers and created a chart that plots the Standard Creepiness Rule against the age ranges that men on Ok Cupid use to search for matches.
(And people only slightly older than 14 should only be involved with those almost exactly the same age as themselves.) To read the chart, go to the position along the x-axis which corresponds to your age, and the green range (between the black and red lines) directly above that position corresponds to the range of your partner's ages which is deemed acceptable by the rule.